I’m sure many of us have been through break ups and it’s always a massive change when that person is all of a sudden gone from your life. All break ups are different and I’m sure there’s much more than 8 things to get used to, but here’s a few I have:
- Not receiving messages from them – whether it’s texts, Facebook messages, Snpachats we have to get used to looking at our phone and not seeing or waiting for a message/reply from them. You seem to slip back into that “I don’t need my phone, no one texts me anyway” kind of phase (even if people do, it doesn’t count in our heads)
- Not having someone to talk to about your day/ events – Maybe it’s just me, but when something funny/anger invoking/interesting etc. happened during my day I always used to think ‘Oh I must tell ___ about this’ so when you break up with your partner that person you could rant to is no longer there…guess I better give someone else a call..
- Waking up alone – Probably one of the worst things to get used to. Waking up in the middle of the night and not having someone to snuggle up closer to whilst we’re half asleep sucks.
- Having much more free time – Having free time has never been seen as a bad thing, but it’s the kind of free time you don’t want, the twiddling-of-the-thumbs, what-to-do-with-my-life-now kind of free time, especially if you use that free time to think about how much you miss them.
- Lack of intimacy – Let’s just say we miss cuddles.
- Having to stop talking about them – As a relationship progresses you find your boyfriend/girlfriend’s name creeping their way into a lot of your sentences/anecdotes, so break ups result in you having to bite your lip when you remember that time when *insert funny story triggered by happening events/conversations*
- Thinking about things to do together – An advert for a beach day out comes on the t.v. instead of thinking ‘Ooh ____ and I could do that together’ you get used to thinking ‘Yeah, maybe me and a few friends will get round to doing that at some point’…
- Not knowing what they’re doing with their days – Also a tricky one – mainly for those who were dumped rather than a mutual breakup. You end up torturing yourself with things that they could be doing (or a better word to use: who they might be doing)